The Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) furnishes upon request, at no charge to the applicant, a government headstone or marker for the grave of any deceased eligible veteran in any cemetery around the world. For all deaths occurring before Sept. 11, 2001, the VA may furnish a headstone or marker only for graves that are not marked with a private headstone.
Spouses and dependents buried in a private cemetery are not eligible for a government-furnished headstone or marker.
For burials in a national cemetery or state veterans cemetery, the office staff will order the headstone or marker on your behalf.
For more information and the form needed go to http://www.cem.va.gov/hmm/